I admit it, my own stories in this blog are idealistic when it comes to sexual encounters between two people (in my case the heterosexual kind): both involved always want the same (she serving him), are in love with each other and find bliss in the act. On top of that they are perfectly in sync. – I´m afraid real life tells a different story.
I am convinced that real life couples, who at least resemble the role models I illustrate, do certainly exist, yet rarely so. When we leave the realm of solosexuality and seek someone else for sexual interaction, it may get really complicated, even more so between the genders. Humans are complicated beings.
The good thing is that we can communicate with each other (which may be hard enough – no pun intended here), so that we are able to establish situations I explore in my prose. Yet most of the times communication may not work properly, because it is overruled by one partner. After all we are animals, especially when it comes to sex. Couple-constellations mostly feature dominance & submission in a wide range of intensity and for a plethora of reasons (not only within the S&M setting). I guess this is in our biology and psyche. And because of this reality I have a good reason to call my stories idealistic – for why my fiction occupies a niche.
That, however, isn´t just tied to the ethical aspect: sex in love and agreement. The thematic niche also concerns the fetish I am personally dealing with (the love for semen, ejaculation and male genitals). It may seem far-fetched, but when you study this brilliant chart by Katharine Gates (discovered this somewhere, sometime – I don´t know her), you will not find what I am caring for in this blog.
You will notice Bukkake, but that is not really what I am talking about. I miss cum as a fetish category. Precum as well. I miss edging, male milking and forced ejaculations and, within the Body Inflation Category, the pumping of cock and balls (or vagina for that matter). There may be more omissions (like glory-hole sex or fucking machines), but this chart shows the vast field of possible sexual preferences, be it for a group of two and more involved, or all alone.
This fetish-map also greatly shows the interlinking and overlapping of themes and their associated preferences. And hence my very fetish reaches into (or overlaps with) other themes. In a chapter still ahead I will take a look at FemDom (which is indeed closely related to my heterosexual scenarios), or more precisely, some major expressions of this kind of dominance: cum-denial (related to edging), milking (related to harvesting cum), ruined orgasm (related to emission) and forced ejaculations (related to multiples). – It´s all a matter of attitudes and settings.
Addendum: I stumbled across another fetish-map (a map indeed) which is a lot of fun to explore, not least because it is interactive and you can embed it!!
