Blue Balls

The term Blue Balls my be associated with more than one condition. In my personal understanding (and experience) it describes a rather painful feeling within the reproductive system (during high arousal), emanating from or somewhere close by your nut-sack.

I mention this phenomenon in this chapter, because it seems closely tied to the situation of cum-denial, this again being an integral part of the practices of milking and edging. Now, whenever your cum-producing glands run in full mode and you are not able to release the accumulated milk via a full-blown ejaculation (yet strongly believe you are soon going to) you may experience the nasty condition.

In my experience, however, it seems to occur mainly in two circumstances: for one if you are not well experienced with or trained in edging, and furthermore, if you badly needed to fuck someone you seriously like and long for, and just can´t get it done for whatever reason. But let´s see what the books say (rather the net says).

Well, different sources tell us this:

Origin: The term is thought to have originated in the United States, first appearing in 1916 (notes Wikipedia). It is a slang term.

Synonyms: guy cramps; hot nuts; hot rocks; love nuts; stone-ache (stoneache).

Concerning the color in the term: This unpleasant feeling has popularly been called blue balls, perhaps because of the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in the testicles.

And: You may have noticed a distinct bluish tinge to your testicles after you “make out” or are sexually aroused for several hours… This is the result of pelvic congestion, when more blood and lymph flows into the genitals (during sexual arousal) than flows out…

Better: Actually, it’s not your testicles that are blue; it’s the skin of the scrotum. When you’re aroused blood flows not only to the penis, but to the entire area. The longer you stay aroused, the longer the blood stays there. Newer blood is red, but older blood, which has less oxygen, is darker red, but not really blue – but that’s why your testicles appear to contain more blue blood.

Anatomy: When a man becomes sexually excited, the arteries carrying blood to the genital area enlarge, while the veins carrying blood from the genital area are more constricted than in the non-aroused state. This uneven blood-flow causes an increase in volume of blood trapped in the genitals and contributes to the penis becoming erect and the testicles becoming engorged with blood. During this process of vasocongestion the testicles increase in size 25-50 percent.

More precise: Blood pressure is increased [with arousal], but the blood vessels that the blood must flow through are constricted (…) by vascular tension as well as muscle tension.

Sensations: In male-bodied people, the primary source of discomfort when arousal is not followed by ejaculation is due to vasocongestive pressure in the penis and testicles and surrounding areas as a whole.

Or: If ejaculation does not occur there may be a lingering sensation of heaviness, aching, or discomfort in the testicles due to the continued vasocongestion.

And: When high blood pressure and high blood volume meet narrowed blood vessels, a little like trying to force the flow of a kitchen faucet through a soda straw, it’s uncomfortable and can be downright painful sometimes.

Wikipedia summarizes: [A] condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles and prostate region, accompanied by acute testicular pain, caused by prolonged and unsatisfied sexual arousal in the human male.

When I read these explanations I notice that the circumstances supposedly responsible for the condition of Blue Balls are just what many of us like best in our sexual routine! Even more so I for my part enjoy the sensations of heavy vasocongestion in my reproductive system both from blood flow and the build-up of seminal secretions in my glands. This gives me a sensation of feeling engorged (my genitals), full or filled (seminal fluids in my system) and heaviness of my plumbing. These sensations add to my arousal and make me anticipate my pending release (while not bothering with the bluish complexion of my scrotal skin). Still, I did – at times – experience the mentioned acute testicular pain! – Why?

It really seems like a small mystery and I guess Blue Balls are not very well-studied scientifically. I assume that the prolonged and unsatisfied sexual arousal are key to the puzzle: when you really want to get off fast, but remain kept from it while your arousal is on a high level, then pain may prevail.

Now you may wonder why then and not during extended periods of edging or long milking sessions? Note the following remark at Wikipedia and take a look at the drawing:

Some urologists call the condition “epididymal hypertension”.

My thesis is this: when your mind or conviction permanently tells you that ejaculation is imminent, I assume your duct-system, especially the spermatic cords propelling sperm from the epididymae to the ampullae, is on alert to get ready to soon perform to the max. When the release does not occur, this may result in a backlock of sperm from the filled ampullae all the way back to the source-glands, the epididymae, while the tight spermatic cords still work hard to move mature sperm in the outbound direction. This conflict would result in acute testicular pain and only one selective measure will bring timely relief: one or (better) multiple ejaculations.

P.S.: It is said that the condition is not universally experienced by all males. And (most) edgers don´t really suffer from this (not that I know or heard of).   You are invited to comment and tell your point of view.

To Swallow And Being Swallowed (2)

(If you did not, please also read my previous post on fellatio.) The post’s headline mirrors the two aspects of the act for both the fellatrice and the receiver: to swallow cock and a mans produce. In addition it expresses the psychological disposition of the physical act. What could a loving fellatrice want other than to devour her (or his) lovers genitals as well as his love juices; and in return, what could a receiver of fellatio want other than to place his penis as close as possible to the conscious senses of his fellatrice with the aim to reward her (or him) with a voluminous load of his very essence?

There may be a slight difference concerning the fellatrice being male or female when it comes to the attitude of giving head. For a woman, especially when she is in love, it may be much more exciting (and arousing) to orally love her mans genitals (rather than to fuck). Just because she doesn´t own a cock and balls by herself, making them somewhat scarce (hence pushing her given passion and urge to suck cock). Men on the other hand have access to a cock and balls all the time – their own. It´s just that a minority (unfortunately ) is able to perform autofellatio.

There are three levels of orally pleasuring:

1. Soft Oral Teasing
2. Regular Oral Massage
3. Oral Copulation

Soft Oral Teasing means the lightest caress, the softest embrace, the slightest touch. Usually used at the beginning of a blowjob, a little soft sucking goes a long way to getting your man aroused. You may not actually suck on the penis, yet rather letting it roll around gently on your tongue and lips. – The receiver experiences a really light sensation at his cock. To watch the action at this point serves as a major turn-on for the receiver.

Regular Oral Massage means a lengthy, gentle and casual cock-teasing to provide pleasure and an increase of arousal. You may apply actually sucking on the penis while you have it move in and out of your mouth. Use a light but steady suction, emphasized on downward strokes. Suck the penis as though you were actually trying to get something really tasty out of the tip (which may be precum at this stage). – The receiver may surrender to the soft and warm sensations his cock (and balls) garners at this level. It feels something like regular fucking with a twist.

Oral Copulation resulting in deepthroating is serious business, so to speak. Best results are achieved when the fellatrice and the receiver know each other very well, love and devotion are sure enhancers. Oral copulation then may be considered the high art of giving head or oral sex. You will merge in it as a means of edging the receiver and certainly to eventually trigger his ejaculation. You alternate between the swallowing of the whole of his cock and a hard sucking on it. Do suck hard, especially near the tip, as though you are trying to actually suck the mushroom off of the shaft (or his milk out of its reservoirs). – The receiver experiences still soft yet intense sensations at his penis very similar to fucking a tight (or contracted) vagina, though much more sophisticated while making him feel much more consumed (not to mention the psychological dimension). If he is not actually balancing at the very edge from oral copulation (when the slightest touch would send him) he will experience his PONR thru hard sucking or deep throating.

The fellatrice has basically three options to deal with the ejaculation of her (his) receiver:

1. you get a distance in time and watch him shoot his load (spraying your body, maybe face) while observing his reaction to the climax you triggered in him
2. you direct his cock in a way to let him fill your open mouth and/or cover your face with his load for you want to taste, play and/or swallow his fresh and warm milk
3. you allow him shoot his load directly into your gullet while you keep his cock totally devoured as long as you can hold your breath.

A last word. For the receiver fellatio bears the advantage to turn this kind of lovemaking into an experience of total care. While using your mouth to pleasure his cock you ought to use your hands to massage his scrotum and tease/enter his anus (possibly to massage his prostate directly with a finger (fisting would be another option, but that is a different story)). There is nothing like the sensations generated thru such a complete parallel stimulation of accessible parts of a mans reproductive system at the same time*. Besides the outstanding experience of being stimulated all over consider the psychological, even emotional impact, when your man is realising that literally the core of his sexual self is being adored and loved to the max!

* A cross-mode of fellatio and (hand-) masturbation is, imho, generally the most favourable love-making you can apply to a mans genitals.

To Swallow And Being Swallowed (1)

The headline of this post sure refers to genitals and cum alike! And it addresses both the provider and receiver of sexual oral pleasures, aka fellatio.

Fellatio is the most intimate and most elaborate sexual copulation possible between a man and his fellatrice (for me this term stands for both female and male performers/lovers!). The definition of a fellatrice may be this: a truly devoted person who relishes all aspects of giving head, including the activity itself, the feel, taste, and scent of cock, scrotum and semen, the thrill of creating erotic pleasure (for both, themself and the receiver) and not at least the thrill of being closely observed while sucking dick with an ambition to create a visually arousing scene.

Fellatio is a most elaborate sexual copulation when you consider the variety of physical (possibly visual) pleasures a mouth is capable of creating at the various areas of the male genitals (which have varying degrees of sensitivity to stimulation) given the curvaceous and complex form of cock and balls. Add to this the infinitely variable combinations that lips, tongue, teeth and throat are capable to apply and it becomes apparent just how much variety there can be to performing this pure act of pleasure. When technique is coupled with creativity, the possibilities are virtually endless.

Fellatio is the most intimate sexual copulation, because here the fellatrice is closest to a mans source of bliss with all her or his senses performing a deliberate and sophisticated act serving both participants perfectly: allowing the fellatrice to literally devour (swallow) her or his lover and bringing refined bliss and utmost satisfaction to the receiver. And when fellatio is based on love (which I always promote) then it indeed is the paramount experience between two lovers rewarding the fellatrice with the most closely experienced spawning of the cumload (i.e. ejaculation) and certainly the very pleasure of itself, and rewarding the receiver with the blissful surrendering of his sexual being thru his climax supplying his essence in the same.

Male Sex Response Praise – Illustrated

In my previous post you read a genuine lady’s account for a basic love of our male devices. In this post you will get to know a woman cheerfully praising her lovers genitals and beyond! You will learn that this concrete love grants a deep sexual fulfillment for both, giver and receiver in this detailed and illustrated description of an edging session.

However, this report is fictitious and this post features the beginning of the story only. Since I had this file ready at hand I decided to coax you into the setting and offer you the whole adventure as pdf-file (at the end of the following teaser):

I have to tell this now. I have to tell the world how much I love my man. I do love him, because my sexual encounters with him are so rewarding to me, – well to us after all. Let me show you why. Here goes:

Over quite some years our bond grew tighter and tighter. This is reflecting in my love for his genitals and beyond. When I say beyond I do mean my love for his juices, i.e. his precum and cum, which I refer to as honey and milk. When we make love to each other we take turns for to please the other respectively within single sessions. One of us will be the giver, the other one will enjoy as receiver. That assures each of us to fully concentrate either on giving or receiving pleasure.

Now concerning his sexual satisfaction we agreed upon going real slow until the event of ejaculation and/or orgasm. He will receive in a very relaxed way, ever adding to his excitement in a very well paced manner with the goal of edging him in a state of sexual bliss right on the brink of ejaculation. Going all this way I am fortunate to experience his sexual response cycle in every detail. I will experience his genitals in many different states as well as his excitement. Finally I am awarded with his sweet juices over an extended period of time. Usually we eventually do harvest his milk having him cum into a glass. This way we profit twice from his climax(es): we observe his penis donating and yet I may fully enjoy to drink his precious essence.

Let me illustrate this route of bliss.

Our lovemaking starts with my pure visual admiration of his penis and ballsack.

I enjoy the relaxed state of his penis as much as I do the half and full erect states of his wonderful cock. What to say, any mode meets my love and admiration.

In the beginning his penis will be more or less flaccid. But the erectile condition may change spontaneously any given second. This rule does apply, if not even more so, to his scrotum. His foreskin may be retracted or not at the different states of erection/arousal. Ultimately I admittedly do prefer his bare cockhead.

The above pic shows my lovers beautiful penis in a quite average condition. My man is standing with his cock already swollen to about a third of a full erection in anticipation of the love-session to follow. His foreskin is fully retracted from the glans. Notice the wonderful corona of his cockhead. His ballsack is tight in this situation. It tends to be tight, because my man is freezing easily. However, once we are en route his scrotum softens and the balls begin to hang loose and looser, as you shall see further down.

I just love his sack to be soft and his balls to be swollen. Usually I will start with caressing his sack and nuts. This includes fondling, kissing and licking. Later on, when my man reached a heightened state of arousal, I will apply sucking, massage and even kneading to his package. [...]

Feel free to download the whole praise enhanced with a lot of pics illustrating the different appearances of the admired and loved genitals, showing them between a relaxed and aroused state all the way to emission and ejaculation!