Blue Balls

The term Blue Balls my be associated with more than one condition. In my personal understanding (and experience) it describes a rather painful feeling within the reproductive system (during high arousal), emanating from or somewhere close by your nut-sack.

I mention this phenomenon in this chapter, because it seems closely tied to the situation of cum-denial, this again being an integral part of the practices of milking and edging. Now, whenever your cum-producing glands run in full mode and you are not able to release the accumulated milk via a full-blown ejaculation (yet strongly believe you are soon going to) you may experience the nasty condition.

In my experience, however, it seems to occur mainly in two circumstances: for one if you are not well experienced with or trained in edging, and furthermore, if you badly needed to fuck someone you seriously like and long for, and just can´t get it done for whatever reason. But let´s see what the books say (rather the net says).

Well, different sources tell us this:

Origin: The term is thought to have originated in the United States, first appearing in 1916 (notes Wikipedia). It is a slang term.

Synonyms: guy cramps; hot nuts; hot rocks; love nuts; stone-ache (stoneache).

Concerning the color in the term: This unpleasant feeling has popularly been called blue balls, perhaps because of the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in the testicles.

And: You may have noticed a distinct bluish tinge to your testicles after you “make out” or are sexually aroused for several hours… This is the result of pelvic congestion, when more blood and lymph flows into the genitals (during sexual arousal) than flows out…

Better: Actually, it’s not your testicles that are blue; it’s the skin of the scrotum. When you’re aroused blood flows not only to the penis, but to the entire area. The longer you stay aroused, the longer the blood stays there. Newer blood is red, but older blood, which has less oxygen, is darker red, but not really blue – but that’s why your testicles appear to contain more blue blood.

Anatomy: When a man becomes sexually excited, the arteries carrying blood to the genital area enlarge, while the veins carrying blood from the genital area are more constricted than in the non-aroused state. This uneven blood-flow causes an increase in volume of blood trapped in the genitals and contributes to the penis becoming erect and the testicles becoming engorged with blood. During this process of vasocongestion the testicles increase in size 25-50 percent.

More precise: Blood pressure is increased [with arousal], but the blood vessels that the blood must flow through are constricted (…) by vascular tension as well as muscle tension.

Sensations: In male-bodied people, the primary source of discomfort when arousal is not followed by ejaculation is due to vasocongestive pressure in the penis and testicles and surrounding areas as a whole.

Or: If ejaculation does not occur there may be a lingering sensation of heaviness, aching, or discomfort in the testicles due to the continued vasocongestion.

And: When high blood pressure and high blood volume meet narrowed blood vessels, a little like trying to force the flow of a kitchen faucet through a soda straw, it’s uncomfortable and can be downright painful sometimes.

Wikipedia summarizes: [A] condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles and prostate region, accompanied by acute testicular pain, caused by prolonged and unsatisfied sexual arousal in the human male.

When I read these explanations I notice that the circumstances supposedly responsible for the condition of Blue Balls are just what many of us like best in our sexual routine! Even more so I for my part enjoy the sensations of heavy vasocongestion in my reproductive system both from blood flow and the build-up of seminal secretions in my glands. This gives me a sensation of feeling engorged (my genitals), full or filled (seminal fluids in my system) and heaviness of my plumbing. These sensations add to my arousal and make me anticipate my pending release (while not bothering with the bluish complexion of my scrotal skin). Still, I did – at times – experience the mentioned acute testicular pain! – Why?

It really seems like a small mystery and I guess Blue Balls are not very well-studied scientifically. I assume that the prolonged and unsatisfied sexual arousal are key to the puzzle: when you really want to get off fast, but remain kept from it while your arousal is on a high level, then pain may prevail.

Now you may wonder why then and not during extended periods of edging or long milking sessions? Note the following remark at Wikipedia and take a look at the drawing:

Some urologists call the condition “epididymal hypertension”.

My thesis is this: when your mind or conviction permanently tells you that ejaculation is imminent, I assume your duct-system, especially the spermatic cords propelling sperm from the epididymae to the ampullae, is on alert to get ready to soon perform to the max. When the release does not occur, this may result in a backlock of sperm from the filled ampullae all the way back to the source-glands, the epididymae, while the tight spermatic cords still work hard to move mature sperm in the outbound direction. This conflict would result in acute testicular pain and only one selective measure will bring timely relief: one or (better) multiple ejaculations.

P.S.: It is said that the condition is not universally experienced by all males. And (most) edgers don´t really suffer from this (not that I know or heard of).   You are invited to comment and tell your point of view.

Milking The Glands

From a scientific point of view the case is pretty clear, because the male anatomy is basically the same in every individual. Hence explaining how to physically milk (massage) the prostate and associated glands is nothing to misunderstand. It only becomes challenging when we want to shed light on the motives, but that´s for a future post.

As for the following how-to I will refer to and quote from a text I found in 2006 which nails it down pretty well.

The technique of prostate massage/milking could potentially directly involve four organs of the reproductive system: the prostate gland, the seminal vesicles, the ampullae and Cowper’s (bulbourethral) glands. While the ampullae serve as a reservoir for sperm, gathering there to a neglectable fluidal volume, the other glands produce what we call (male) milk when expelled.

During sexual arousal the prostate produces a fair portion of alkaline fluid to protect the sperm (from vaginal acidity). The largest component of the ejaculate (60% or more by volume) is produced in the seminal vesicles. This liquid is a fructose sugar based substance to nourish the sperm. And the Cowper’s glands secrete the clear lubricating precum to help speed the semen along the urethra.

The glands can be accessed via the rectum. The Cowper’s glands are kind of an exception to that since the pea-sized organs are for one hard to sense and furthermore not in the focus of conventional milking. Nonetheless you may experiment thru trial and error given precum is your passion/fetish (check out the diagram above).

A good way to find the glands is to insert the middle finger into the anus and slide it from just inside the rectum (on the front side) up and in until you feel it move over a lump. That will be the prostate. Just up from the prostate is a smaller, roughly triangular wedge-shaped nodule, that is the bottom portion of the seminal vesicles. The ampullae are located underneath the seminal vesicles.

Now the prostate, seminal vesicles and ampullae (latter mentioned are of less importance because they don´t contain a lot of fluid) can be emptied by applying a firm slow massage over the nodules of these glands with the middle finger or the middle finger and index finger together. This is truly intimate and highly arousing! This kind of draining can also be performed with a dildo or dildo-like tool. – No need to mention, that the rectum is supposed to be emptied of feces and finger(s) and tools ought to be very well lubricated for best results!

The massage will force the seminal fluids past the valves in the ejaculatory duct. When semen appears in the mouth of the cockhead, it will help to empty the urethra by running a finger firmly up the underside of the penis from the root to the head, harvesting the fresh milk. For milking the shaft use lots of lube as well.

You should explore prostate milking on your own first, before getting involved with someone aiming for draining your glands. You may fancy this internal tease or not, at least you become sensible for what feels sound and when it does not. – Please check these illustrations of the technique!

Psychosexual Aspects of Sexplay

In my next chapter, starting from here, I want to try to take a look at some more refined sexual practices concerning harvesting cum, climax and the playful variations of all of it. This, by the way, is something only humans (are able to) pursue.

We humans bear a true animalistic side within ourselves (since we naturally are animals). Outlived while in sexual activity it would show as (e.g.) furious jacking or wild fucking, driven by an egoistic motivation for providing immediate pleasure and quick release thru aggressive impact upon the own genitals (be it alone or with a partner). Much similar to an almost mindlessly (or at best passionately) carried out activity, ignited by an inner urge, executed compulsively.

A more skillful and sophisticated sexual activity requires a very different goal setting. Thru knowledge and their intellect, humans are able to extend the time of sexual arousal, become more or less able to consciously decide when and how to climax, or even deny the big redemption at all for generating a distinct, altered sexual experience that is not based on biological necessity (urge) but rather psychological aspects.

For exploring your sexual capacities you need skill and expertise, experience and insight to begin with. I tried to put that into a graphic display which I called The Evolution of Being Masturbated. It applies both to scenarios of solosexual and accompanied engagement. The more elaborate the action, the more your reproductive system and body will be involved. Not to forget your disposition for your quest of your very personal attainment of sexual bliss and satisfaction.

It is interesting to note that based on one fixed design of hardware (I´m referring to the male anatomy) there is such a multitude of possible great experiences in the sexual realm. With always the like built set of genitals and reproductive structures (hardware) providing one kind of body-function (producing precum, semen and expelling both), men are able to excite a huge range of sexual experiences due to a large variety of (their) attitudes, preferences and imprints (software).

Almost identical techniques and biological reactions are labelled differently depending on the psycho-sexual environment in which the action takes place (compare the horizontal placement of the bars in the Evolution-Chart shown above). Most of the activities mentioned in the display are covered already in this blog. Now it´s time to take a look at the direct stimulation of the prostate and later on the strategic handling of ejaculation in scenarios net yet addressed.

Penis–The Shaft

Our penises are highly complex structures. What we see hanging or standing between our legs is made of much more than a cylindrical tube, more or less skin and a mushroom-shaped tip at the end of the organ. I promised to not get into anatomical detail too much, as there is plenty out there to find if you were interested in the biological particulars.

I just wanted pay tribute to the body, to the shaft that makes cock. This is what we grasp when we work our tools or what we insert into something suitable in the search for bliss. It is interesting to know these two facts:

• that a shaft continues to extend inside of the pelvis,
• that the shaft is made of two different kinds of erectile tissue.

The two bodies (i.e. erectile tissues) are the corpora cavernosa (actually a connected double-structure) and corpus spongiosum (the latter referred to as corpus cavernosum urethrae in the above pic, because thru its center runs the urethra, the passage for cum). Inside your body the corpus spongiosum forms the bulb (surrounded by the BC-muscle), at the other end it forms the glans, the cocks helmet. The corpora cavernosa splits up (inside your pelvis) in single endings, the crus, and is covered with your helmet at the other end.

It may be worthwhile to explore those erectile bodies a bit closer for masturbatory benefits. An email-buddy sent me his findings about that and I like to share ´em with you. He writes:

I believe that, during masturbation, when the penis is rubbed up and down, there is a friction between the cc [corpora cavernosa] and the cs [corpus spongiosum]. This friction at the interface between these two corpora stimulates nerves located there and ultimately induces ejaculation. With this realization of how the pathway to semen liberation is regulated, it is possible to masturbate more meaningfully, and gain full pleasure from the situation.

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