Climaxes Put In Words

It may be quite a task to put into words (to describe) such intense and blissful sensations a man experiences while he climaxes. Some time ago the forum of The Erotica Readers & Writers Association did ask men (and women):

Describe Your Orgasm

How does it feel? Don’t be shy…

Can you describe your orgasm? The feeling from beginning to end—I’d love to hear your description without the usual explicatives. Be wide-ranging, and all-inclusive in how it feels, where it comes, and from whence it comes.

In this post I do quote quite some accounts of guys (leaving out the ladies here) not to check with literary capacities, but to demonstrate how different guys do understand the term orgasm, or rather, what experience they take for an orgasm. Read this selection (I did some focal editing) with my comment on every guys description:

From Nathan

You are in total bliss for around 10 seconds but I’ve found a way to make it last longer. I’ve been masturbating since I was 5 am now 22.

Nathan then describes that he had discovered edging, and eventually:

…my heart was pounding and every 20 seconds I had to stop again. I could feel it right down my legs, I couldn’t even move, until after about 10 minutes of this torture I gave in and had one of the biggest climaxes I’ve had.

I guess Nathan is speaking about an intense ejaculation after some edging.

 

From Jim W

…I suddenly reach that FAMOUS, FABULOUS point of no return, here by myself, I give an “undignified” grunt…, as I reflect, it appears this pleasurable state—focused in penis, lasts awhile, but in fact I discovered it only lasts a second or two—then I shoot my wad as the rope of cum lands faraway, 2nd and 3rd shots/contractions reflect penile pleasure, after this, as the pleasure fades (as well as volume of ejaculate) I instinctively pump that dick faster, as to milk out the remaining semen; but by now the intense orgasmic pleasure had since faded.

…I estimate approx. 6 seconds of orgasmic pleasure—centered in penis, and after 1 climax, the dick soon goes limp.

Jim W is clearly speaking of an ejaculatory climax.

 

From Anonymous

I’m an older man and divorced, and I wish to describe the orgasm I have experienced with a special method of masturbation. It’s natural for men to want to thrust the hips forward in sex with a woman or in masturbation, but with my method I experience a wonderful, mind-blowing oozing sensation that precedes a very powerful series of ejaculations.

I lie on my side and bend slightly at the hips so that my butt is sticking out in back and, as I stroke my penis, I concentrate on relaxing my PC and sphincter muscles. When I get to the point of loss of control, with those muscles relaxed I can feel the semen oozing slowly up my penis and out the tip, an incredibly erotic sensation. Then the intense muscle contractions take over, but I still resist assisting them by concentrating on relaxing. I experience extremely strong contractions along my penis, in the anal area and down to my knees. Oddly enough, the pleasure is more intense if my penis is not entirely stiff.

This is a very intriguing variant of an ejaculatory climax, this experienced guy explains.

 

From KL

…As my cock gets erect, I feel a very pleasurable, slight tingling sensation. As I get ever so closer to orgasm, this pleasurable sensation becomes gradually stronger. My cock is usually rock hard & throbbing at this point and I begin to get a feeling of fullness inside me, in the area just behind & above my scrotum. All the while, my heart is beating faster and faster, along with a little heavier breathing. When I am several seconds away from orgasm, I sometimes feel a few random twitches of my PC muscle. Right after that (if I continue stimulation), is the beginning of my orgasm, as I define it.

Ladies, (and guys, too), in case you were wondering, a guy’s ejaculation occurs DURING his orgasm, but is only one of a handful of things going on! At the moment my orgasm actually begins, I feel my semen pooling at the base of my penis & beginning to move into the urethra. This is the point at which a guy knows he’s going to come, and there is no way to stop it! It feels so good–I wish it would last longer! It is a very warm, almost “hot” feeling inside me. When this hot feeling peaks, which takes only a few seconds once it begins, I feel a wave of energy (for lack of a better description) radiate out from my groin to my extremities. My face grimaces, my fists clench, and my toes curl. At the same time, my PC muscles contract a few times, but this time in a more rhythmic fashion. All the while, as I am feeling all of this going on, I usually vocalize my pleasure, from now through the end of my orgasm. If I am inside my wife, I have a very strong desire to thrust deeper–it is almost a reflex action.

Then, usually I feel one, sometimes two more powerful PC muscle contractions, one right after the other, less than a second apart. This is actually what I consider to be the beginning of my ejaculation, although no semen has come out yet. The next (second or third) contraction usually brings the first squirt of cum out of my cock. This, and usually the second squirt, travel the farthest. …The pumping action of my PC muscle, and the feeling of a large volume of semen shooting through my penis feels incredible to me. (I usually have about 10-12 spurts of cum, again, each just less than a second apart…) As I continue spurting, the full feeling diminishes, and the hot feeling begins to subside, too, but not quite as quickly. After semen stops spurting out, I still feel some leftover random PC contractions as residual semen may ooze out. This is the end of my ejaculation.

I am usually breathing very heavily for a few moments along with a rapid heartbeat. The feeling in my penis changes somewhat now. The shaft gets less sensitive, while only the head gets super-sensitive. (Guys, as well as the ladies, you can relate to this feeling, I’m sure. It is almost painful to continue any stimulation). My penis starts to soften, but only a little at first… Breathing slows back to normal & I have to work to unclench my fists…

A detailed description by KL and it appears he is illustrating a combined climax of orgasm and ejaculation, and being quite conscious about it.

 

From Chris

…For me it seems to start in the perineum, spread into my balls, and then it rips through my cock like a steam train. The feeling is one of an ever tightening coil in my pelvic area which reaches a point where it just has to spring back to normal.

It starts with a delicious tingling, then pulsating waves, then wild convulsive contractions which all work to whip me along a kind of roller coaster ride in my crotch. If I’m tensing other muscles (eg my leg muscles if I’m standing spread eagled getting my cocked suck by another guy) then those muscles also quiver and tremble and come along for the ride. The feelings are hot, tingling, lusty and manly.

The best part is when the first phase of the orgasm has begun and it’s time to shoot a load. Spurting out the cum provides the final release. There’s nothing like that feeling of getting rid of all that juice that has been churning around my balls for so long. And of course the intensest feelings are along the shaft of my cock – which feels likes it’s being enveloped in the most fantastic tingling, throbbing and pulsating waves of release, bursting to exploding point.

While it doesn’t always come naturally, I can give my whole body over to the convulsions and thrash and bounce my arse on the bed and in general flail my limbs around. Keeping the pumping going after the immediate orgasm and speeding up the tempo also maximizes and prolongs the experience, which can leave my whole body, anchored to my pumping fist at the cock, convulsing and writhing for quite some time. And when I really far gone I don’t give a damn what the neighbours think as I pant and moan and groan. I expect it inspires them to get down to it themselves.

When I cum with a cock up my arse the feelings seem to start deeper in the pit of my arse where my prostate is located. Being prodded by a nice fat cock spreads the area over which the orgasm takes place. It’s like my insides, my lover’s cock and my pelvis are as one and riding the ecstatic waves in unison.

The more foreplay and delayed gratification the better the finale. Sometimes I experience mini orgasms with only a little cum dribbling out. These are both pleasurable and very tortured as you do get some release and delicious teasing tingling and a few faint contractions, but you need to discipline yourself not to go the whole hog, not if you want to experience the ultimate orgasm still to come. Under these circumstances the experience is the most cock-centred – I feel like I’m all cock, wound up, hot, and bursting to explode. Not much else exists in the world at such a time!

And the final pleasure? The sticky mess – some guys find this a curse but I guess being gay I’m pretty cum friendly. I like not knowing where the cum will fly – on me, my face, my stomach, the sheets, the head-board if I’m lucky, or my partner’s chest or face if he’s lucky. And I love to feel the spray of another guy’s cum on me – it’s all part of the rich delicious tapestry of the male orgasm…

Another detailed, and even poetic take on several ways to climax! Chris clearly distinguishes between ejaculatory climax and orgasmic climax, and even a more rare prostatic climax.

 

From Dennis

I learned the art of extremely explosive orgasms by training my PC muscles to EXPLODE at just the right moment. I do Kegel exercises daily (about 200 contractions per day) and so does my wife. The strength of our PC’s allow us to better control the timing and INTENSITY of our orgasms. The longer that I delay and control my ejaculation the more intense the moaning and wetness we both feel.

My precum begins to flow one drop at a time and my wife responds with moans of pleasure enjoying her growing nipples and intensifying wetness. I give her timing signals (1 minute or 30 seconds) as to how close I feel I am to orgasm. At that point she will tell me to slow down or go deeper or possibly hold still for a few moments so that we can build up more anticipation and time our impending explosions together.

As we approach the last 10 seconds she will signal me and I plunge deep into her and do several powerful Kegel contractions with my cock throbbing and ready to explode but no longer going in and out. She contracts tightly around my pulsing shaft and I begin to feel my huge load mixing and slowly flowing up from the base of my cock. As it begins to mix, I tell her 5 seconds and we both push deeper as my powerful PC muscle explodes the first shot of cum deep against the back of her powerfully contracting vagina. We both scream in ecstasy as our powerfully trained PC’s contract and the remaining 8 to 10 shots of cum explode into her and she tells me she senses each warm shot.

Her contractions are often so powerful from her daily Kegels (which she does sitting at her desk at work) that she literally triggers my explosion that I have been trying to time together with her. I just sit back and enjoy the power she has over me and let her know how wonderful her powerful contractions feel around my exploding cock. I savor each and every shot of warm load that I can fill her with until we both lay there holding each other tight until we drift off to sleep. She is the best that I could ever dream for!

She also enjoys seeing how powerful my explosion can be by bringing me to orgasm using her thumb and a few fingers to make me start dripping as she rolls my balls very gently with her other hand. If I let my load build up for about 5 days before, she is able to build the volume of cum up with her gentle hands for about 20 minutes and with one or two gentle perfectly timed rubs across the tip of my dripping cock she watches me explode for 10 or 12 seconds as she aims the sometimes 24″ or more shots wherever she wants (sometimes on me, sometimes on her).

Well, Dennis and his wife are certainly experts for very controlled and very intense ejaculatory climaxes, on Dennis side that is.

 

From Anonymous

The main focus of my orgasm is in my penis. As I either fuck my girlfriend, or masturbate, I can feel my orgasm start in my balls. It runs up though the shaft of my dick and then to cock’s head where I explode with a geyser full of cum. It feels great to ejaculate because it makes my dick feel good as the cum is being pushed out.

This describes an ejaculation, plain and simple.

 

From James

This was so appealing that I had to experience an orgasm myself during reading these fine entries and here is my experience As I increased stroking my penis (my #1 pleasure area), my nuts tighten, body stiffens and I let out a grunt of pleasure, knowing ejaculation is soon due. These precious couple seconds are the highest forms of pleasure and are focused in my groin.

The 1st ejaculation is accompanied by a grunt (extreme pleasure felt) and the shot goes far; a 2nd shot (very pleasurable) is accompanied by a verbal “oh” and a third as well. Later contractions feature the cum oozing out as the pleasure tapers. I project it was about a 10 second orgasm. Of course the best pleasure felt before the ejaculation.

James is talking about an ejaculatory climax as well.

 

From Jim

My orgasms are very centered in my penis. Initially, there is a tingling in my balls, which, as I get closer to orgasm, rises up along the shaft until, when I come, it’s very intense right at my cockhead. Ejaculation sensations run the gamut from there & gone to feeling like my insides are being squirted out my cock.

Jim explains an ejaculation here.

 

From Mark

An orgasm seems to teeter on the border of pleasure and pain… the pressure you feel as it builds up in a males genital region. Specifically the testicles until climax can be almost maddening if allowed to go on too long… I know that sounds kinda weird. It kicks in a primal need for satisfaction. Your muscles, in your back, legs, butt and stomach all tighten…. your heart rate increases. Your breathing becomes more labored. …with all the hormones running through your body you can be actually considered legally stoned during sex. You lose some of your higher cognitive functions.

As a male reaches the point of no return … it really does border on pain until actual orgasm and ejaculation happens. It quickly dissipates with each spasm of the PC muscles.

With Marks take I find another combined climax of orgasm and ejaculation.

 

From Zombie Ferguson

Mine starts as a rumble. I can feel it almost past my calves. It encircles each of my legs, and rises up my buttocks. I can feel the release almost through my stomach, and as it approaches I experience great flexibility, and an incredible sense of breathing and alertness. It makes my body shake, and my cock gets harder, and feels hotter. At the summit, I can’t see except for a gauzelike vision, and there’s a drumming, though quite quick that goes through my head, and rests in my ears, but only for a moment. My whole body feels like detaching and exploding in all different directions, and it’s amazing how “fully engulfed“ it feels, my mouth is open and taking in so much air it feels criminal, and at the explosion, all time stops for a brief instant, my thighs stiffen, my toes curl, and then there’s an explosion at the point of my shaft. Whoa! Then the ride down begins, fast furious, yet smooth. I feel like I’m landing in a room filled with all comfortable things. For a while, I’m completely, drooling and happy. I can feel the throbbing of my heart, and my sated penis as one continuous thud.

It’s blissful. The only feeling I have is, I gotta get back up that hill again…

Zombie Ferguson is definitely describing an orgasm. Notice that he does not mention anything about cum and spurting (but drooling after the climax). That is because orgasm overrides the sensations of ejaculation. Ejaculation becomes part of the more encompassing sensations of orgasm (enhancing it). This is a beautiful illustration of what an orgasm can feel like.

 

I hope that for starters I could give a hint about the different sensations possible with the different ways guys are able to experience their climaxes.

Ruined Orgasm

In the world of BDSM we find a method of significant humiliation called ruined orgasm. Yet is there such a thing, and if so, why does it work?

I want to take a closer look here, because we deal with two body reactions when it comes to sexual climaxing. Ejaculation and orgasm are not the same, so which of the reactions is effected, if at all? The short answer is: you can not really ruin an ejaculation, but you can ruin an orgasm.

Why ruin after all? In this blog I recently wrote about cum-denial and forced ejaculation. Now an escalation of these practices within a master/mistress-slave constellation, where the slave is totally at the hands (and will) of his master/mistress, would be the destruction (ruining) of the experience of sexual relief. This is truly sadistic, because it leaves the victim highly frustrated if not damaged to a certain extend.

Concerning ejaculation, an attempt of ruining it, or rather experiencing it as such, is more related to the attitude and experience of the slave than to the biological process. Ejaculation is a reflex which either can be avoided, or which runs its program once triggered. The reflex can´t be interrupted, it can´t be ruined per se. It though can be denied, avoided.

When you avoid ejaculation, you edge. When you manage to avoid PONR but trigger emission (the free flow of milk) it is even more rewarding, because you harvest cum (with the associated sensations of expelling fluid from your glands) without losing your hornyness. And when you pass PONR you experience ejaculatory climax, although that may not always feel mind-blowing, depending on the circumstances. But the reflex does take place, your respective muscles do spasm in a pulsing manner, despite the volume of secretions waiting in your glands to see the light of day.

With orgasm it is a different story. The topic orgasm lies still ahead, actually, it will be the subject of my next chapter arriving soon. Orgasm is more complex than ejaculation. When you mess with that, you mess with the whole man!

Whereas ejaculation is a local phenomenon (centered in your pelvis region), the orgasmic reaction, being a powerful reflex as well, integrates the whole body. Orgasm, in short, is a discharge of energy (i.e. arousal and excitement having encompassed your being) letting you lose conscious control over your body for a brief moment.

Other than your ejaculation, which you can manipulate and observe and savor like from a distance, keeping calm over all (which in fact is the beauty of it), your body literally moves you at the moment of orgasmic release. This goes along with secondary physiological changes in your body that may be missing with ejaculation. Here are the most obvious ones:

• The heart rate peaks as high as 180 beats per minute (from a resting rate of about 70).
• The blood pressure peaks at about 200 over 110, from a resting pressure of about 130 over 70.
• The respiratory rate peaks at about 41 breaths a minute, from a resting rate of about 12 per minute.
• The sex flush, if present, peaks in intensity and distribution.

It is not difficult to imagine that a master/mistress ruins the orgasm of the victim when his body is set to discharge the accumulated energy or even begins to do so, while the master/mistress denies further stimulation to make it happen, instead turning away and leaving the victim totally frustrated with his primed biology now unable to execute the all-encompassing, body-wracking experience set to undergo right there and then. This ain´t healthy by no means. It´s like hitting the brakes at full speed!

After all, ruining a climax is as much a physical issue as it is a mental one. You need constant sensory input to trigger a climax, no matter if ejaculation or orgasm. And since both reactions are most often intertwined it may not matter much which of them is pending, once you are under total control of your dom. When you sense that you are ever so close to the threshold, or (even worse in this case) your point-of-no-return is reached and maybe just passed, and you are left alone in that instant, possibly strapped down, then you experience your life is ruined right there. You hardly find another frustration that sinister.

Reel Fiction (6)

No preliminaries, right into the story:

I´m damn lucky with my man for he is such a great cummer. Or, rather a great cum-producer, that´s what he is. I mean he does not spray his load nor does he shoot it in all too many spurts. He prefers to cherish the art of the emission, making his semen leave his system before he triggers his ejaculation. And he manages to cum at least a couple of times when he is at it.

I love his emissions, it´s like a faucet opened with your favorite juice pouring out. Yet I still get my spurts when his ejaculatory contractions pump out his cum or what is left of it. And I love his white stuff so much! He produces this creamy silky slimy milk I can´t wait to either rub into my skin wherever he wets me with it, or drink after I caught the whole (double) load in a glas.

I never want to miss observing him closely when he cums. It´s such a sight when he pours his milk, then shoots out what his glands still hold. And not to forget his production of precum. He is a fair precummer as well. Since he carefully closes in towards his cum-releasing moment his precum gets enough time to ooze out of his cock-eye first, just excellent!

precum

The other night I had the idea to tape his sweet ability and my man agreed without hesitation. All I needed to do was to faithfully film the scene, no further changes necessary, – well, we hooked up an extra lamp, so much for that. However, only when he came I realized that I was facing a true dilemma! I really wanted to get his mouth-watering cumming taped in total to preserve his skill, and yet when he finally came it was so hot, I would have liked to just forget about that damn filming and rather catch his milk to spread it all over my body and lick it off my fingers. I never felt the urge to consume him stronger than in that moment!

I´m glad now that I kept up with covering his two climaxes. We use the clip to speed up our moods when we decide to go for it. It is so hot to watch it in a slight slowmo-mode and it´s just awesome to study how he was spilling his milk that night:

As usual he was kneeling right above me, me comfortably laying on the mattress observing him and his cock. I had caressed his cock and balls in the beginning, I even had my fair share of precum. Eventually he got into the zone. While he needed to pay close attention to his reproductive system to avoid PONR yet coax his milk in a free flow, I grabbed the cam and stood by. Eventually he signaled me to press the record button, the moment had arrived.

He held his cock in his right hand fist and ceased any movement. A bead of precum had obeyed gravitational law and was cutely bouncing a good inch beneath the cock-eye which I closely kept in frame. Not long after that my love sighed what sounded like a „yeah“ meaning his milk was rising! My heart was pounding.

first milk

Seconds later his sweet milk just poured out in a swelling stream. I guess the whole unusual and hot situation triggered his ejaculation as he suddenly shot one spurt followed by several smaller pumping gushes. Eventually he began to squeeze out the remaining cream in his cockshaft making it slide down on a string made of precum just like pure fluid pearls.

When a last bead had descended he was beginning to jack his cock firmly for triggering his follow-up ejaculation. Not too long into his fist-work he started pumping his milk once again. This time he squirted three juicy gushes with his milk appearing thinner, more runny, but still deliciously creamy.

After the last drop of his jizz had splashed down on me he asked for the cam to take a picture of my chest, just as I was beginning to scoop up his sweet cream. Because I did not spread his produce while he was covering me with it, as I usually do, he wanted to capture the scene of the pool of milk he had left between my boobs in a photo. I must say that turned out a great sight too. I am really happy that I taped his way of cumming. We may try that again some time when he really is loaded. But then I will use a tripod for taking my share of him when he oozes and shoots his loads.

STORY CUMPLETE

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To Swallow And Being Swallowed (2)

(If you did not, please also read my previous post on fellatio.) The post’s headline mirrors the two aspects of the act for both the fellatrice and the receiver: to swallow cock and a mans produce. In addition it expresses the psychological disposition of the physical act. What could a loving fellatrice want other than to devour her (or his) lovers genitals as well as his love juices; and in return, what could a receiver of fellatio want other than to place his penis as close as possible to the conscious senses of his fellatrice with the aim to reward her (or him) with a voluminous load of his very essence?

There may be a slight difference concerning the fellatrice being male or female when it comes to the attitude of giving head. For a woman, especially when she is in love, it may be much more exciting (and arousing) to orally love her mans genitals (rather than to fuck). Just because she doesn´t own a cock and balls by herself, making them somewhat scarce (hence pushing her given passion and urge to suck cock). Men on the other hand have access to a cock and balls all the time – their own. It´s just that a minority (unfortunately ) is able to perform autofellatio.

There are three levels of orally pleasuring:

1. Soft Oral Teasing
2. Regular Oral Massage
3. Oral Copulation

Soft Oral Teasing means the lightest caress, the softest embrace, the slightest touch. Usually used at the beginning of a blowjob, a little soft sucking goes a long way to getting your man aroused. You may not actually suck on the penis, yet rather letting it roll around gently on your tongue and lips. – The receiver experiences a really light sensation at his cock. To watch the action at this point serves as a major turn-on for the receiver.

Regular Oral Massage means a lengthy, gentle and casual cock-teasing to provide pleasure and an increase of arousal. You may apply actually sucking on the penis while you have it move in and out of your mouth. Use a light but steady suction, emphasized on downward strokes. Suck the penis as though you were actually trying to get something really tasty out of the tip (which may be precum at this stage). – The receiver may surrender to the soft and warm sensations his cock (and balls) garners at this level. It feels something like regular fucking with a twist.

Oral Copulation resulting in deepthroating is serious business, so to speak. Best results are achieved when the fellatrice and the receiver know each other very well, love and devotion are sure enhancers. Oral copulation then may be considered the high art of giving head or oral sex. You will merge in it as a means of edging the receiver and certainly to eventually trigger his ejaculation. You alternate between the swallowing of the whole of his cock and a hard sucking on it. Do suck hard, especially near the tip, as though you are trying to actually suck the mushroom off of the shaft (or his milk out of its reservoirs). – The receiver experiences still soft yet intense sensations at his penis very similar to fucking a tight (or contracted) vagina, though much more sophisticated while making him feel much more consumed (not to mention the psychological dimension). If he is not actually balancing at the very edge from oral copulation (when the slightest touch would send him) he will experience his PONR thru hard sucking or deep throating.

The fellatrice has basically three options to deal with the ejaculation of her (his) receiver:

1. you get a distance in time and watch him shoot his load (spraying your body, maybe face) while observing his reaction to the climax you triggered in him
2. you direct his cock in a way to let him fill your open mouth and/or cover your face with his load for you want to taste, play and/or swallow his fresh and warm milk
3. you allow him shoot his load directly into your gullet while you keep his cock totally devoured as long as you can hold your breath.

A last word. For the receiver fellatio bears the advantage to turn this kind of lovemaking into an experience of total care. While using your mouth to pleasure his cock you ought to use your hands to massage his scrotum and tease/enter his anus (possibly to massage his prostate directly with a finger (fisting would be another option, but that is a different story)). There is nothing like the sensations generated thru such a complete parallel stimulation of accessible parts of a mans reproductive system at the same time*. Besides the outstanding experience of being stimulated all over consider the psychological, even emotional impact, when your man is realising that literally the core of his sexual self is being adored and loved to the max!

* A cross-mode of fellatio and (hand-) masturbation is, imho, generally the most favourable love-making you can apply to a mans genitals.