Being Edged (1)

The mere thought is highly arousing: to just sit (rather lay) back, relax and let a partner do the teasing. And with that I certainly mean edging. This reaches way beyond the ordinary hand job. Read about a hot experience of Jim which always makes my pulse speed up while rereading it. I found this more than 10 years ago and it influenced my own stories pretty much! The most intriguing perception is that a partner may be able to generate a more intense climax than one can achieve with oneself.

When two people who know and practice these wonderful techniques have the opportunity to get together it can be an intense experience. Until recently, I had a fellow Tantric enthusiast I would get together with about every two weeks on a Saturday. We would take turns. One week one of us would totally concentrate on the other and the next time the roles were reversed. The reason we did this is because we tried to expand the time of bliss to as long as we could, no less than two to three hours.

By the time it was over the recipient needed time to recuperate before he was interested in focusing likewise. We did not have the time so we just traded out complete sessions. We used warm coconut oil and all the slow edging techniques we have read about including some on this forum [Jim was referring to another forum then, not this one]. We used the book by Brauer called ESO as our basic guide.

One thing we always did was to keep the erection hard and firm the whole time without ever letting it subside. We both loved slow deliberate masturbation. We were both practiced with Kegels and had no erection problems at all. We read and also learned by experience that this builds up incredible sensations. We also tried to keep him right on the brink for most of this time.

At first we communicated with signals as to when we were close to the edge. We also went too far a few times and brought each other to ejaculation too soon. After about 5 or 6 sessions, however, we began to learn just what it took for each other to produce an intense experience. Wow, it was incredible because there is nothing like another set hands edging you for sometimes 3 hours knowing exactly when to slow or stop, knowing how to lightly rub those sensitive nerve endings while you relax.

Sometimes there was a semi-consciousness. Other times there was a heavy breathing or moaning. We encouraged each other to just open up and vocalize the passion when we were at one of the more extreme peaks. We told each other what strokes felt the most incredible and we focused on those each time. We always prepared several days in advance for a session by not masturbating to ejaculation and by doing plenty of Kegels and eating properly and getting plenty of excercise.

Finally we decided to tape each other receiving a session. Then the next time we got together we would review the tape of the one who was going to receive that day. It was so he could show the giver what was great and what wasn’t so great. We found that scanning through the tape was fantastic preparation for a session. It was highly stimulating just watching it knowing what was coming. We counted one time almost 70 times when he was close to the brink. We also tried to count contractions (the PC [BC] Muscles contracting when pleasure is received) but lost track after 200 or so. We saw that they were not as frequent when he got to stage III. By then it was more of a bliss time with even the lightest stroking causing intense sensations.

The orgasms and ejaculations at the end of these sessions were always preplanned and agreed upon so that there was no guess-work. They were always incredible. Routinely I would shoot very far, several jets, because I am made that way from the factory. His were not as far but he had about 3 more jets than I did. Both of us had many ejaculatory contractions at the end, way more than when we masturbated alone.

You sure need to share the same passion, a trusted relationship, knowledge of the male (anatomy) and experience (thru trial and error on your man = receiver). These parameters are not gender dependent!

Leaving the Edge

Taking a Break

Most edgers finish their session climaxing (hard or soft), some decide to not spill their milk but rather spread their energy within their body (known as the Big Draw). Let me take a look at those different options.

Just like you follow your preferences in designing your edging session you will do so when you choose to leave the walk on the edge. I believe there are three most preferred ways of climaxing after some time of solid edging:

1. allowing a powerful ejaculatory reflex (shooting cum)
2. relaxing into PONR resulting in an emissjaculation intensely felt
3. waiving ejaculation and dissolving energy via a Big Draw.

1. Edging does generate a big volume of semen throughout its course. Some guys do edge exactly for that purpose. Besides savoring the sweet sensations of peaking they aim for a spectacular ejaculation at the end of the dance. Some guys seem to be made for this. Their glands produce a big volume of milk, they will avoid emission while edging and their plumbing and BC-muscle are just right to provide them with a most powerful eruption when they decide to finally let go. Watch this clip illustrating such a climax:

I found this clip as edited as it is. The first frame already contains the first rope of this guys ejaculation. At second 9 into the clip (overall length 26 secs) his spectacular shooting is repeated in slowmo. In the 1:1 part you have sound. So you are witnessing his climax right from the start and count 9 wonderfully propelled ropes of milk covering him from head to belly button! After three shots the highly aroused and slightly moaning guy let go of his beautiful cock, fully enjoying the pumping spasms of his reflex. This is an outstanding sight!

2. There are guys who play with PONR being able to voluntarily allow emissions while surfing the edge. Those lucky men drool milk throughout their sessions leaving their glands more than less drained when they decide to leave their sessions. Their glands may be empty, but their sexual energy still needs to be released. When they decide to approach PONR they aim for a most intense and stretched climactic experience. They will slowly trigger emission once again and then continue triggering the ejaculatory reflex. They don´t care about shooting distance, rather they surrender to the intense sensations their reproductive system provides them with. Watch this clip illustrating such a climax:

This clip is more important for its audio than for the visuals which are of low quality (you still are able to observe him oozing milk from emission and after that pumping cum with his ejaculation). What makes this clip so special is the fact that this very vocal guy gives us a clue about how long his climax lasts and how intense he feels it. The overall length of this clip counts 40 secs. The howling/whining guy experiences intense sensations for about 30 secs being apparently most intense with the onset of his ejaculatory spasms at sec 15 into the clip. He applies the OK-grip just below his cockhead and keeps on (minimally) jacking throughout his climax. It is fucking hot to hear him surrendering to the intense sensations he is able to generate thru his genitals.

emission

3. There are guys who love limitless edging and gooning so much, that they avoid ejaculation at all (because e.g. ejaculation bears the risk of MRP which would impose an interruption to arousal) when they decide to leave their edging sessions. However, it showed to be wise to dissolve their accumulated sexual energy (while they are able to cope with accumulated milk in their respective glands). This is tantric wisdom and the process is known as Big Draw. Read what that means (thanks to Richard for this how-to):

The Big Draw can be done in various ways, but the main way taught by Body Electric and Joe Kramer comes when you want to end your edging and to raise all the erotic energy you have generated within your erotic furnace – when you want to raise it up to your mind and to have it flow throughout your whole body (and, I think, to take your mind off your cock a bit). Any way, it is preceded by intense breathing during your edging, then you stop breathing and tighten up every muscle in your body, consciously thinking of each part while you lie on your back (this is the usual posture, anyway) and raising your legs and your shoulders and head so you are balanced on your butt grimacing as you tighten your face and arms and hands, etc. Hold this for 10 -15 seconds (NO MORE!) then relax COMPLETELY and do not move a muscle for as long as you want. Let your mind savor how good you have just been to yourself and be aware of whatever you feel, sad – happy – content – whatever; again, let this awareness just flow across your mind as if your mind were swimming in a refreshing, nurturing current of aliveness.

It is good and natural to take a break from edging because you need to drink, eat, piss and sleep, only to go pleasure yourself again before long. Read further experiences in my next post.

Deep Edging (2)

I consider Richard an experienced master of edging. He runs a great homepage and his excursions into the realms of (edging-) bliss are based on tantric knowledge. Read about his findings while ascending „The Hill of Pleasure“ via three stages:

Excitement Stage
Yes, excitement is the first stage of edging. When I first approach cumming, I automatically breathe much more deeply and audibly, my butthole clenches up, my prostate moves a bit forward, the canal from my anus to my prostate arches and stiffens and my cock hardens up. I must be very mindful to avoid cumming at this stage – often nigh impossible – in fact, this is when the danger of my prostate dumping its overfull load w/o any contractions [emission] or feeling is great, esp. if I have approached the edge too quickly. I have to work hard to get through the excitement stage successfully w/o cumming so I can then reach the higher states of more intense feelings and then altered consciousness.

Enjoyment Stage
After the excitement state has begun, say about 5 minutes, I calm down and my stroking is of course very slow to avoid cumming – often only with the slightest vibration by my index finger or slightest touch with the vibrator and I just cruise like this for a long time; often the charge dissipates a bit, though I do not realize it until I stroke a bit more and find I am not in danger of cumming. Then I oscillate between approaching inevitability [PONR] with slightly more intense stroking and backing off with a lighter touch, sort of going on both sides of the precipice of inevitability. It often also seems that it gets used to being so ready to cum and that my prostate can then hold more or tolerate more stimulation than in that first very hot stage of excitement. I especially love it if I get to inevitability [PONR], but am barely able to pull my finger out of my butt and stop stimulating my frenum and clench hard to avoid cumming. I love the tingle of almost cumming. I like to never completely stop stimulating my cock, but at this point I must. Then it is dicey to see how quickly I can resume stimulating. At first, I can do it after a few seconds, but later, after having been on the edge for 30+ minutes, the least touch even several minutes later starts this deep rumbling/vibration deep behind my prostate which is a precursor to cumming.

Trance Stage
Sometimes, if I am very lucky, there is a third stage where I can no longer keep my finger up my butt, because that greatly increases the danger of spontaneous cumming, so I just stroke ever so gently and very, very slowly go higher appreciating every separate tingle in my whole genital plumbing. Then I get to where there is a slight rumble deep down, not the vibration behind the prostate that signals I have started to cum (though, if I am quick enough, I can still avoid cumming), but everything is quivering with a new resonance and I ever so gently push it right to the precipice and as I get on the sharp edge of cumming, I stop stroking but keep my hand on my glans and frenum so this slight pressure stimulates me and then it happens: slight convulsions exactly like when cumming but less intense. This is delicious beyond words and after doing it for several minutes with a continuous feeling of fluid flowing (rather than the dam building up about to burst) I guess I let it down a bit. I take it this is what others refer to as “dry orgasm”. It is definitely other worldly, totally absorbing and very empowering, though after doing this several times in an hour and a half, I feel a bit tired in my genitals, but eager to return as soon as possible. My eyes go up inside my head, eyelids not tightly closed – even slightly ajar – and energy pouring up to my highest chakra.

These three stages are only a rough conceptualization putting arbitrary edges on feelings and states having no sharp edges. I recycle around from 1. to 2. to 3. and back to 1. again and the cycle repeats several times before I take a piss break or stop for a longer time feeling totally fulfilled. Letting myself relax into stages 2. and, perhaps, 3. (if I’m lucky) seems crucial to avoiding the excessively “edgy,” that is, the “on edge, brittle” feeling after raising so much energy and juice in our genitals. This seems to affect us all a bit differently, but I find I do not get so-called “blue balls” and I do not get this nervous edginess if (and only if) I let myself thoroughly relax into the deliciousness of riding the edge and let it go until my cock tells me I am bored and it is time to give it a rest. In this case, I lie back and savor how good it has been and consciously let the chi, the erotic energy, flow from my genitals to all the rest of my body, esp. my head (“crown chakra”). I sometimes do this physically by tracing the good vibes away from my crotch with my fingers, but I always do it mentally by feeling/imagining the good energy being distributed to the rest of my body.

In my next post I will take a look at three preferred ways to finish the act of edging. Because, unfortunately, even the best things in life require a break to be enjoyed over and over again.

Towards The Edge (3)

In the previous post I gave an example of an orderly how-to (edge) – with a tantric background – for establishing control over your arousal while closing in on PONR.

This time let me sum up what Bruce McFarland recommended years ago at JackinWorld.com when he explained his way to reach a lasting continuous orgasmic state „beyond the simple Stop & Go technique“ hence plateau-to-plateau surfing.
He kicks off with common wisdom: It is important to pay close attention to all the nuances of your arousal, stay conscious while masturbating.
For what he is aiming at, it „becomes crucial to notice the onset of ejaculation, with its two main components: emission and expulsion“.
He claims that with practice it is „possible to enter the emission stage and remain there indefinitely before entering the expulsion stage“. He does that thru consciously relaxing his entire pelvis and ceasing to stimulate his penis just before reaching PONR. Bruce does experience this emission stage as „a feeling of pleasurable fullness when seminal fluid is accumulating internally within the urethral bulb“, or as emission proper when „a small amount of semen oozes out — yet those muscle spasms have not begun“.

He recommends to „keep breathing! Your penis head may feel hot, filled with pressure, or almost as if you need to urinate. Train yourself gradually to edge closer and closer to that ejaculatory inevitability. Consciously relax that muscle controlling urination, allowing your excitation level to drop just enough to delay the expulsion stage — only try to drop it less and less with each approach. Here your mental control becomes vital“.

It is interesting to note that this way of edging equals one practice of cum-harvesting, about which I did write here. There is no difference other than the angle from which you care to incorporate this practise. Bruce (and countless edgers) seeks to put himself into „a state of continuous orgasmic intensity without a sense of interruption“ *. And it does not matter too much if he spills milk or not, it´s all about the sensations emission is unleashing inside of him. Milkharvesters instead are eager to collect as much semen from their system as they can and repeated emission is a great way to do that. Now with this technique they´d be edgers at the same time!

* I have a slight problem here. In my understanding (and by definition) emission does mean that the internal glands release their produce into the urethral bulb of the penis. Now can this state last continuously? If so, wouldn´t it mean that milk was oozing all the time until the glands are drained, with the sensations continuing? Is it possible to constantly peak at the level of 9.5 (of the 10-Point Scale Of Sexual Arousal) without falling off the edge either forward or backward? -Don´t forget, you are always welcome to comment.-

I believe we rather deal with edging between the levels of 9 and 9.5 – which to achieve for extended periods of time would mean mastery indeed. This blog features some footage demonstrating that emission (oozing cum) may last a while (surely depending on the volume of accumulated secretions within the glands). However, releasing semen this way is always a temporary process (like hitting 9.5 and bouncing back, unless falling forward to 9.9 resulting in 10 (ejaculation)). Watch a not yet offered clip showing this in my next post.