Why Do You Love PONR?

August 26, 2020

How could I not!?

In fact, I consider PONR being so significant a part of the male ejaculatory climax, that I did write many posts about it (see further below).

But what exactly is the point of no return?

It’s certainly not a climax on its own. Is it a moment then (lasting a bit)? Or is it rather a demarcation line, marking the point in time when we briefly lose control over our freedom of decision (so to say)?

We can learn to avoid this ‘point’ and keep control. This is essentially happening when we are edging skillfully and never let PONR, thus ejaculation, occur.

On the other hand, PONR is a very sweet sexual mark, with which I have been addressing the moment between knowing/sensing that ejaculation is provoked/triggered and the actual beginning of the ejaculatory reflex, which does last (generally) between 1 and 5 seconds.

I tried to put these blissful seconds into a description when I wrote in this post:

I can´t keep me from slowly merging towards my ejaculatory reflex! … I again feel the oh-so-sweet melting sensations inside my reproductive system, indicating that the reflex of my ejaculation is about to kick in. I still try very hard to relax my BC and PC to stretch the incomparable moment of inevitability, yet I sense myself falling prey to the ever so sweet sensations of PONR. … my relaxation changes into a defenseless but deliberately strong hardening of my lust-muscles to further postpone the pulsing contractions. Eventually I observe my system surrender, making my lust-muscles relax briefly, before the so much desired first involuntary spasm occurs, itself marking the beginning of the automated muscular pumping routine.

Following this “definition” PONR would indeed be the stretch of time between knowing that one cannot reverse or halt the arrival of the ejaculatory reflex and the onset of the reflex itself. So, shall we regard PONR as the phase of inevitability? Yes, I like this idea, because this stretch of time is not part of ejaculating, but neither a time we can control anymore. We probably should speak of the Phase Of No Return = PhONR!

However, having mentioned a variable time span (1 and 5 seconds) shows us that we can manipulate this awesome moment! We may be able to stretch the phase of this struggling sweet helplessness. It’s nothing other than riding the crest of the edge for a while, yet knowing we are falling over.

Watch this master-edger extending his PhONR to almost 11 seconds! In this length of time he may experience all what I described above. This is truly mind-blowing!

But there is even more to it! We can ‘play’ with this phase once we achieved good control over it. As we know, some men are able to generate emissions…! It’s like PhONR ‘light’ for which we trigger a relaxing of our glandular sphincters resulting in the outflow of semen (no reflex, no muscular spasms!). This means a brief phase of inevitability as well (seminal fluid is passing thru the urethra, no return here); however, the ejaculatory reflex is still not triggered!

Provoking emission puts us very close to ejaculation, if emission ceases and remains a singular reaction. Often enough the outflow of semen (or the attempt to stop the outflow by clenching muscles) does trigger the reflex, no additional touch required. I call this emisjaculation.

The provoking of emission does feel different from the phase of no return, which bears a decisive quality of its own, because it defines the time between sensing the beginning of ejaculatory inevitability and the first spasm of the reflex! I love this phase.

Please read all about it in several posts I published in the PONR-category here, and in a selection of 5 further entries, like here, here, here and here and also here.

You can read the intro to this series here!

11 Responses to “Why Do You Love PONR?”

  1. apalmer5 Says:

    PONR is such a fascinating part or phase of our masturbation. Also the discovery process for learning how to get “there” and hang around “there” and then finally deciding its time and to go for it.

    Curious where that PONR trigger mechanism is inside us. Presume its in the penis shaft? Or perhaps its much more complex than that just flipping a switch.

    Also, as I’m getting older I do notice that sometimes it can be more of a struggle for me getting to my point no return. One part of my brain is saying “I’m ready, I want it”, but the connections aren’t being made for some reason.

    And yes I do enjoy those times when I’m so aroused and sexually charged & hovering around my PONR that I can’t help but start oozing sperm.

    • nandisa Says:

      I appreciate personal opinions and experiences about any topic (post), like this one. So, TY apalmer5 for sharing!

    • Peter Says:

      I had a radical prostatectomy due to cancer and have all of my milkfactory removed. In my case I can tell you that the point of no return was in my prostate, my brain tells me “go ahead” and I trigger my orgasm but in my penis, I do not feel any tension or accumulation of seminal fluid so nice. All this has disappeared because I no longer have any glands to give me sensations of my point of no return, I only have muscle spasms from the expulsion

      • nandisa Says:

        Peter, I remember you were looking forward to this post.

        Are you at all missing the sensation(s) that tells you that you are near triggering your “ejaculation” or that it will happen within seconds? Is your climax happening by chance? Can’t you postpone anymore?

      • Peter Says:

        I have known the [PONR / trigger] with and without prostate, when I was edging before, I felt exactly what you describe and without prostate, the part of your description that disappeared from me is:

        “I again feel the oh-so-sweet melting sensations inside my reproductive system, indicating that the reflex of my ejaculation is about to kick in. I still try very hard to relax my BC and PC to stretch the incomparable moment of inevitability, yet I sense myself falling prey to the ever so sweet sensations of PONR. … my relaxation changes into a defenseless but deliberately strong hardening of my lust-muscles to further postpone the pulsing contractions. Eventually I observe my system surrender”

        Now I have no exact feeling of my point of no return, I have the outward signs of my penis hardening, precum, I feel it pulling where my prostate was and a slight tickle but nothing specific. When I want to stop in time, it’s a bit of a coincidence, edging is almost no longer possible. I stop when I think it’s good and I feel that my penis remains very hard for 2-4 seconds afterwards and then I say to myself no no! But I have the involuntary contractions like before and I feel my orgasms. No genital glands, no fluid, no sensation of emission and PONR

      • nandisa Says:

        Thanks for clearing this, Peter!

  2. Douglas Brotchie Says:

    Thanks for an inspirational post.

    I enjoy tremendously making a long, slow journey to PONR. And when approaching the summit to delay, to spend time there enjoying the view and the experience.
    It’s the study of a lifetime, exploring and extending that journey.

    • nandisa Says:

      Thanks! And I think your last sentence is a great statement!! 🙂

    • apalmer5 Says:

      So true, it is a journey or well it can be (or should be) a slow and enjoyable journey. And then when we’re on ‘top’ of that amazing peak or summit, it’s such a beautiful and sensual experience.


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  4. AJ Says:

    https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5b32a21c48c6b Here is a video of me riding the edge before entering emission and ultimately full ejaculation. You can see how full and erect my penis is and how it stiffens up as I approach each PONR in this video. When I finally went over I felt all of my valves open up in the base of my penis and the flood of warm semen pump through my bulb and up out of my shaft. The ejecting cum was very fulfilling. This was a release after 3 days of edging.


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