Before becoming specific about how to edge, I´d like to remind you once again of the connected branches deriving from the practice of prolonged masturbation:
- staying relaxed while masturbating and while triggering climax(es)
- consciousness about sexual energy and working with it (tantric approach)
- emissions and multiple ejaculations (cum-harvesting)
- semen containing and climax denial
- worshipping Penis and spiritual self-fulfillment.
Edging is closely related to, respectively does contain, the above mentioned facets of reaching out for bliss.
Riding the edge seems to be an easy accomplishment (say easier than achieving MO), but it may not! After all – once again – everything depends on your individual attitude and disposition. For some it will be easier to edge than for others. Personally I am not much of an edger myself. I love the thought, it turns me on big time, I wish I had the patience to find bliss wandering the edge. However, I lack the discipline to stay away from triggering PONR. As I wrote before, for me MO is the alternative and I am happy with that.
The most difficult aspect of edging may in fact be that of avoiding ejaculation! To stay (securely) away from PONR while feeling damn close. Trying this for an extended period of time is a tough game, at least for an apprentice edger. But you can exercise to neglect PONR, you can learn and overcome the urge.
Still, edging holds „more“ than it seems at first glance. Because our bodies work with (electrical) energy, prolonged states of intense arousal provide us with certain effects that only occur when in such a state. Add the chemical body reactions to it (e.g. release of endorphin) and you find yourself in a sphere that can be truly otherworldly (the proverbial 7th heaven, or bliss, as I like to call it).
Read about one likely method to stay away from PONR and about what you might expect to observe within your system while balancing the edge, here from a guy named Massamuda:
I get myself hard by standard play… Once I get hard, I will lubricate my hand with an oil-based lube. Water based lubes are great for sex but when it comes to prolonged solo play, oil is much preferred.
I start to stroke myself and get excited. As I approach heightened feelings (well shy of orgasm) I start to change my stroke. I slow down, I rub my head, I take long strokes up and down my shaft. When I get really excited, I slow down even more. I will stop using my whole hand and form an OK sign and use just my thumb and index finger to stroke my cock. I will then progress to just stroking my head. As I do so, I am starting to get closer and closer to orgasm.
Anytime I feel it is getting too close, I back off my stimulation. I will stop and catch my breath. I will let the feeling subside, much like the stop and go. I then build up again. Sometime, I can find a point where I can stroke more quickly and really let the feeling build. I play with the approach to orgasm so that as I get closer, I back off, relax a bit and then approach again. The more often I do that the more leeway I have with getting to the point of edging.
I have reached the edging state by two different methods and it depends on the session:
In one, where I am having more difficulty in keeping my orgasm at bay, I will begin to stroke just the back of my head. I avoid that wonderful spot on my cock on the underside where the head makes a „V“ [frenulum]… When I just stroke my head in this fashion, I can increase the level of stimulation without risking going over the edge.
I have used this technique to get to an unbelievable point where I though my cock was vibrating. I felt I could maintain this intense and pre-orgasmic level for ever. I remember the first time I did this, when I came, I shot over my head. It was incredible. The basic idea, though, is to not cum. It is to keep relaxing into your stimulation. You only stop stroking yourself when you feel you will cum.
Try to continue to stroke and keep relaxing into the feeling. [Try to keep the BC- and the PC-muscles relaxed.] That is what will keep you from orgasming. What I do love is, as I get into it, my precum flows and flows. You will ultimately reach a point where you are relaxed and stroking a pre-orgasmic cock and you can do this for as long as you wish. It is the best feeling in the whole fucking world!!!
The other approach is when I start relaxing into the feeling sooner and can continue to the OK stroke and slowly bring myself to near orgasm. I will stroke, stop, stroke, stop and do that until I attain another pre-orgasmic level. Again, the key is keep relaxing into the feeling but learning to ease up on the pisser muscle [BC].
Coming up: an example of how-to exercises, the tantric way.