Posts Tagged ‘reflex’

Estim And Pulsing Pace

May 28, 2017

This short post is only ment to be redirecting/splitting the ongoing discussion about estim and its possible effect on the pulsing pace. We garnered a record braking (almost) 80 comments on the topic for the preceding post – getting oriented becomes increasingly tough. 😉

There is a field trial going, so the exchange will continue, and I hope it does at this freshly placed post. Find enough scrolling space for maybe another 80 comments!? Thanks to all active participants, and new voices are certainly welcum!

For a Closer Look (25) – Pulsing Pace

May 14, 2017

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Do You Pump or Do You Fire?

It´s a single aspect of the ejaculatory process, and many of us know the figure: the repetition-pace of the muscular contractions of the ejaculatory reflex runs with a frequency of 0.8 seconds per pulse (initially). This is what´s written in the books – and it is wrong! Or in a more diplomatic lingo: there are exceptions to the rule, as always.

General information has it, that human males pump their semen at a tact of 0.8 sec per cycle, and slowing within the course of the reflex. This was noted down, probably because the majority of men features this speed.

Ejaculations run in a broad range of representational possibilities due to the many parameters involved. Most of these parameters are subject to change, not least because we can alter them, we all know that. However, this doesn´t apply to the pulsing-pace!

We can not alter the speed of the beat at will. The pace seems to be determined by our genes. Thus, any of us men features a fixed rhythm, or so it seems. Apparently the speed of the beat slows with age, – after all, this is my personal observation. (Any other factors in effect here? Comments that shed light on this are always welcome!)

Now for a fact: contrary to the purported data of the famous 0.8 seconds per pulse so generously proclaimed, we observe clear differences here in different men.

I like to show you two examples illustrating rapid and dilatory pumping. The animated gifs following give you a first impression. However, you ought to download the small clips to fully enjoy the complete ejaculation of each guy. Both clips feature sound so as to underline that what we witness is neither fast forwarded nor slowed down. In addition to that, each clip repeats the cumming-sequence slow-motioned!

This rapid pumper shoots his first five spurts within 1,5 seconds, which gives him a pulsing-pace of 0.3 secs per cycle!!

And this dilatory pumper shoots his first five spurts within 7 seconds, which gives him a pulsing-pace of 1.4 secs per cycle!

Needless to say that the given pumping speed marks the main parameter for the duration of the respective ejaculation!

Much like the force of the cum´s ejection, the number of spurts, the volume of semen produced and the duration of the reflex, so does the speed of the pulses alter our erotic perception when we watch a man cumming. As with any single aspect of ejaculation we shall carry a preference for the pulsing speed too.

Personally I prefer to watch dilatory pulsing with a high number of muscular contractions and a big volume of male milk. But you knew that already. 😉

What you didn´t know is that I used to feature a pulsing-pace of 0.9 secs per cycle, pumping slower in the meantime!

Please participate in the poll that is published along with this post, thanks.

Clip one: See a guy pulsing rapidly (.flv, 44 secs, w/sound, 2 MB).

Clip two: See a guy pulsing dilatory (.flv, 138 secs, w/sound, 6 MB).

The Readiness States

October 1, 2015

Let´s analyse something that we take pretty much for granted every time we aim for a satisfactory climax. It´s about being ready, ready to be blessed with the most beautiful moment(s) our sexual organs can provide us with.

Men can be fast in making themselves cum, think of a sports-car accelerating from 0 to 65 mph within mere seconds. While a driver most certainly will be excited here, the quick-jerker may hardly encounter arousing fun or satisfactory cumming in his act.

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The opposite of such a rushed jerking is edging, with which we deliberately postpone PONR until we feel poised to shoot. – Recently I discovered considerations on our body´s readyness states, neatly expressed by M.xxx in his brilliant blog! Let me elaborate on M.xxx´s observations.

There are few kinds of being ready or feeling ready for triggering sexual release (i.e. climax). When we choose to masturbate with the intention to finish with an ejaculation, we find ourselves in a (certain) readiness state, but we are still far from – what M.xxx calls – being ripe.

This is the rule of thumb: the more ripe (the more ready) we are, the more blissful our climactic experience will be. But becoming ripe requires time! And even with time at hand, there are two properties of you, which don´t ripen with the same velocity: your body in opposition to your soul!

Your physical ripeness shall be always ahead of your emotional ripeness! Making both congruent is the key for climactic bliss and deep satisfaction! And edging is the method to achieve this congruence!

The body usually is ready much faster. Not only because you enter your masturbatory activity with a certain level of arousal to begin with. Many factors upfront determine how much loaded you are initially, not least the fact that nature equipped us with a (physical) system being ready on short notice (to secure procreation), if necessary within seconds (remember the race-car metaphor above). Thus your body feels ready shortly after you started masturbating.

Still, your body needs time too. At least if you want much from your ejaculation (a fulfilling one that is). If you want your system to feel ripe for a satisfactory release. Think of your cock getting hard, your balls swelling some and your Cowpers glands oozing precum. All the while your cum-factories secrete and store your juices until you make them flow. You are physically truly ripe when you feel vasocongested in your whole reproductive system. You really need to discharge at that point. M.xxx puts it this way:

When you are physically ripe, your body becomes hypersensitive to the touch and you will feel fully pressurized and full of cum.

edge state

You may be ripe in a rational sense, just sensing that your system is ready for cumming and you don´t see a reason not to trigger PONR. But that is not the emotional ripeness M.xxx is referring to when he says:

When you are emotionally ripe, everything inside you begins to demand ejaculation, and it soon becomes an obsession. I wanna cum will repeat itself unrelentingly in your mind. You’ll become oblivious to what’s going on around you: all you will lust and care about is to ejaculate…

Such a readiness state of your soul takes a lot of time (mostly) to be established. It is a more complex process of accumulating arousal and lust, it is a more holistic affaire, affecting your neural system, your mind and psyche, than having your cock ready to shoot.

You just can not short-cut your body into such a mental state, not least because distraction can easily happen for many reasons. You really have to ripen into it. By the way, a certain level of soul-ripeness is required for experiencing an orgasm (as opposed to ejaculation), look up the posts covering orgasm!

As I said, edging is the method! It´s the technique to establish ripeness of body & soul. You „just“ have to fight your increasing urge for triggering yourself. Edgers who edge for the sake of it, who don´t want to pump up their load but savor their state of ripeness on end, will be better off to reach the ultimate state of emotional ripeness (to feel as being one with ones cock), because that exactly is their aim (compare here for emotional stages while edging in this post).

Now such is beyond your state of ripeness and your concept for edging. Because you want to just cum and nothing but cum. You want to release, you want to shoot, you want to pump and nothing else. And because of being ever so close to fall over the edge you certainly need a lot of will-power not to trigger your reflex, yet. As long as you consider to trigger your ejaculation you may not have reached that ripeness state of your soul. That´s why being edged by a partner, who knows you and who can read your behavior, may be a great option for finding climactic bliss!

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The man in the gif above appears to be ripe both physically and emotionally. His lover (whom he might be riding) just needs to stimulate his nipples to make the guy release his milk in what appears to be an overflow, a heavy emission!

As a solosexual it needs experience and will-power to synchronize your readiness states assuring you climactic bliss and deep satisfaction eventually. Just like M.xxx mastered this:

…you will have to temper your stroke speed to sometimes ridiculously low rates as you keep nurturing your soul with all the pleasure it requires to quench its needs. …this is why I could only stroke once every 30 seconds or so. Physically, I was ripe : my cock was achingly overpressured, my balls were congested with cum. My body was ready and willing to spill the seeds. But my soul was not satiated yet: I felt I still needed to be edged. So I continued stroking at the very slow speed I required to keep both my body on its toes, eager and ready, and my soul edged until it reached the same level of readiness.

Being aware of the different and mostly not congruent readiness states of body and soul explains well why we see guys calmly watching themselves cum or chatter right before and after or thru their ejaculations (even producing big loads) as if nothing really special was happening, while other guys moan and totally surrender, moved by very intense sensations before and while shooting their milk, needing to regain their senses after their climaxes (nicely illustrated in part 3 of this story!). And if their bodies bucked and convulsed, most likely their ejaculations were embedded in orgasms, as their high-level arousal discharged all along.

Men have these options and a whole range of anything in between. And to be able to be in control of that, that is the real beauty of our sexuality!

Poll No. 47 Results

August 29, 2015

I sure need to tell you the results of this poll with the essential question: What do you want most from your ejaculation? Only one of the choices was permitted to determine a true leading answer. And the ranking – with 277 votes – turned out as expected.

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As you can see, there is a clear preference for four suggested answers. And the top choice is again leading with a clear margin of 7% (or 20 votes)!

We find one added reply (“Other Answer”) which is smartly summing up the effect we observe: (What do you want…?) The first 4 listed answers combined!

This favored group of answers is no surprise at all, because all four of the mentioned choices are tightly connected with each other! You may want to expect all of these to happen to you when ejaculating, provided you cared for a high build-up of arousal and sexual energy (like after some time of edging)!

The extended build up will supply you with a larger volume of semen, which in turn will be spilled by an increased number of pumping spasms (extended duration). The release of accumulated arousal and energy (and seminal fluids) will bring you intense sensations and most likely forceful ejections of your milk.

A word about intensity. The top choosing is not very distinct in this matter. Ejaculation is an experience which combines several anatomical reactions following a timeline, each of which delivers its own quality of sensation and intensity.

When you edge you generate most exquisite lustful feelings within your system, which can be very intense. So much so, that many edgers waive the implementation of ejaculating.

Then there is PONR, of which I believe is the most intense phase of regular ejaculation. In the moments of PONR all the involved structures of your system harden (contract/ spasm) until the ejaculatory reflex sets in. This is (or can be) extremely intense, especially with a high level of arousal. PONR marks the conversion from controlled stimulation to the execution of the reflex which runs beyond our control. So we gain a strong physical (hardening) and psychological aspect (knowing that we immediately will enter the uncontrollable phase of our climax).

Readers of this blog are aware of the fact that we can alter this phase, we can play with it, extend its duration. And I am happy to find 11 votes favoring emisjaculation! This is my favorite as well. 🙂

And finally we experience the reflex, the autonomous pumping of our milk. This can be very intense in yet another quality. Especially when the (muscular) spasms are strong and our milk is ejected with force. The psychological aspect adds tremendously to the physical reaction, when we observe ourself shooting a big volume with force in an extended number of contractions.

This gif is such a beautiful example of a guy overwhelmed by the intense sensations of his ejaculation (even without watching himself):

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This very young, skinny lad is lost in the experience of his reaction!

His eyes are closed while he is surrendering to the sensations of the onset of his reflex. He is so much consumed by the intensely sweet feelings within his system, balls and cock, that he does not care about his shooting performance anymore.

The stunningly forceful ejections of his milk are a great relief from the fluid-pressure in his glands and with it the dissipation of the pent-up tension of his sexual lust, all having been waiting to be released.

As he is surrendering to his profound reaction I can „hear“ him moan with pleasure, his powerful spray-jets of milk let us realize the cumulated volume of his secretions, and last not least note his beautifully swollen balls!

Unfortunately I never saw the full clip of this deeply experienced ejaculation. Maybe one of you knows the source and wants to share!?

Thanks to all participants of this poll!!