Anal Pleasure

The anal opening may occupy roughly three roles in our sex-routines:

1. it is taboo laden and will be neglected
2. it is fully incorporated in our sexual activities (such prostate-milking or anal intercourse) without a second thought spent
3. it is in the erotic focus on its own right for the pleasures it provides.

The anus can be a big issue – or none at all. I rather take its sexual integration for granted, not only because it is the gateway for reaching the prostate and seminal vesicles, but also because the anus is in fact a source of erotic sensations.**

The anus may be such a big issue for some people (and by the way: this is not gender-dependent), because it has the potential to touch a wide range of rather negatively charged aspects, spanning from biological to cultural issues. The anal taboo may still be widespread to great effect, as it is a „form of psycho-social control more potent than the most rigid moral code or threatening law.“*

This is a real shame, because – as I believe – the anus is just a natural part of „the system“ that defines our sexual center, which contains internal and external structures alike. After all our whole body is „sexual“ when we practise sexual activities.

The only up-side of the anal taboo may be what Jack Morin* named the „Naughtiness Factor“, a „process through which prohibitions are transformed into erotic fuel [...] for those who grew up steeped in anti-sexual messages and warnings“ when „the thrill of breaking the rules and flaunting taboos becomes a major aphrodisiac.“

**When sexually excited: „The anal sphincters start to twitch and contract in response to direct stimulation or in sympathy with other pelvic muscles. [...] Voluntary contractions of the anal sphincters can also heighten pleasure. Many people enjoy the unique sensation of the anus contracting against something such as a finger, dildo, or penis.“

„Sensitivity to anal touch appears to increase during excitation, at least for those who like it. Within the anal muscles and nearby perineal muscles (between the genitals and the anus) are a great many nerve endings that can be stimulated not only by contractions but also by external touch.“

All the quotes in this post are taken from the book: *Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin, Ph.D., ISBN 0-940208-20-2. Yes, Morin wrote a whole book about the subject, of which Betty Dodson said it „is a classic that belongs in everyone´s library.“ – the book that is. And as for the subject I say: it may be well worth a further exploration!

Wet Dreams 1

Climaxing thru will power alone may be a tough skill, yet not impossible as I have shown. Even more so I believe that the majority of men in fact do experience mentally triggered climaxes/ejaculations – some more, some less. It´s just, we do so while asleep! We know this phenomenon labeled as wet dream, or in a more scientific lingo nocturnal emission.

Both denotations are misleading. Not every nocturnal cumshot is accompanied or triggered by a dream, and the in-sleep-emissions are rather ejaculatory reflexes, thus climaxes and much different from how I regard emission! This whole sexual reaction seems to be pretty much neglected, even despised. People tend to regard this function as non-desireable or even immature. Let me tell you, it´s far from that! And it would be well worth to scientifically investigate.

Wet dreams are mentioned in relation to cum-storage within the semen producing glands, the prostate and the seminal vesicles. Even when we are not sexually active, sperm is constantly produced in the testicles, as are – on a low-level – the secretions of the mentioned glands which all mix up to become semen at ejaculation.

Theory has it that, although the body does reabsorb some of the stored juices, the constant nominal cum production exceeds the reabsorption capacity of the glands having them filled over time – if no ejaculation occurs – resulting in a wet dream as a body-function to make space for new produce.

I doubt this full-gland thesis. Go ask any regular edger. Edging makes the glands run in full mode, making them filled with secretions to the max. And yet edgers may not experience wet dreams during their intense and lasting cycles of masturbation (or are they? Please comment on this aspect! I am not really an edger!).

My own experience contradicts the opposite side of the alleged biological function thesis mentioned above: I experienced wet dreams with rather empty glands, quite soon after regular (wake) ejaculation! Even more so I do claim, that wet dreams are an independent, quite awesome aspect of a males sexuality in its own right. I think that every man who is lucky to experience nocturnal climaxes is truly blessed.

I am afraid there is no scientific study out there to shed light neither on the function of wet dreams nor on the occurrence among males in a given society. My recent poll # 31 may serve as a weak indicator of the latter aspect. It can not be representative with a 103 votes (multiple choice). However, the result may indicate that I stay on the side of the blessed guys, because my system provides me with rather regularly nocturnal climaxes, many times accompanied by hot visions (i.e. dreams) which then do trigger ejaculation! – I will report in my next post.

Milking – His Say

With this post I will close the chapter on milking. Last but not least I will share accounts by two guys and their way of milking themselves. Which brings me back to solosexual experiences after an excursion into a theme (dominating/milking the male) mainly attributed to partnersex. And as for that matter I highly recommend this page, which many of you will have discovered already since it is permanently listed in the link-section at the left column.

Concerning the following share I once again applied minor formatting and proofreading of the texts which I found in a forum quite some years ago. The first is a structured how-to by a guy called Jon Wilson. The second is a very personal account by a guy nicking himself Loaded. I am sure you´ll get some further insight! Here goes:

By jonwilson

I have read many posts about this subject and here is how I do it step by step:

1) In order to empty the prostate, it first has to be full… therefore do what ever you need to do to create “blue balls”. For myself, I use masturbation to the point where I get a good amount of pre-cum starting, then I stop. If you want a good load repeat this process for 5-10 times… or more.

2) It is hard not to have a mild orgasm, when you self-milk (for me it doesn’t improve an orgasm), I have tried to ice my balls down before hand but I still have a 1/2 erection. Self-milking may help in keeping you harder longer… after you self-milk then you can have extended sex… it works for me anyway.

3) You should pee before you self-milk and take a healthy dump (shit).

4) For me it is impossible to use my own finger to self-milk.

5) You will need to use an object that will enter your anus, and will not damage anything.

6) I have found that a long neck spoon handle works very good. The one that I use has a shaft about 6″ long and at the top, it is about the width of a finger. This is very easy to insert in my butt and reaches the top of the prostate nicely. Put some cooking oil or spit on it to make it go in easy. Again, I use clean stainless steel spoon handle.

7) To massage the prostate you will need both hands to work the spoon, one to press with the spoon and the other to help position the spoon. I lay on my back, with my left arm coming from around my left leg and my right arm between my legs. The left hand moves the spoon up and down on the inside and the right hand slides the spoon shaft up and down the outside. You will need to watch your penis and as soon as it starts to move in motion with the spoon handle then you should be in the right area.

8) You will need to tap or press lightly with the spoon handle on the prostate, this will “milk your prostate“. That’s IT!

9) In a short time you will unload your load… and I mean it will unload. IF you have a soft penis, your load will fly out and then lots more fluid will follow… just flowing out like water out of a hose.

I hope that this helps.

By Loaded

I’ve been milking semen from my prostate on a regular basis for years. When I first started I didn´t get much semen out either, a drop or two. Now when I milk my prostate I get a large pool of gooey thick semen. Here’s how I do it.

I milk with a standard plastic 6 inch vibrator. Sexual arousal makes all the difference in the world! I always buy fresh porno magazines to look at while I’m milking the fluid from my prostate. It’s become a ritual for me in fact. When my wife leaves on a business trip I get to have one of my secret milking sessions. I call it a pmp-(prostate milking party).

I make sure I have at least a 7 day load saved up. Ten days to two weeks is the perfect amount of saving time. The prostate builds pressure and swells with semen and relief is needed. Plus when you save that long you get super horny and really start anticipating it. The night of the pmp I surf the net and jack my cock a lot. This charges the prostate with even more semen.

With the big load it’s hard not to blow my wad and I’m extra careful not to do so. Finally I can’t take it anymore and a milking needs to take place. The scene of the prostate milking party excites me as I approach it. 10 unopened porno mags surround a mirror on the carpet with the vibrator close by. I squat over the mirror and watch the vibrator slide into my asshole. I start turning pages.

…I push the vibrator onto my prostate gland with firm but gentle force and start rubbing it from side to side. My prostate is so full that I feel the semen enter my cock pipe immediately. My cock is soft and white watery semen starts dripping from my cock hole. It’s a big turn-on for me to have cum dripping from my soft cock, it’s totally hands free. Semen drips onto the mirror and the sight of this is very exciting which makes another load ooze out my cock.

The fluid gets thicker and thicker until I have a string of semen stretching from my cock to the pool forming on the mirror. This is super exciting and goes on for about 20 minutes or so. My legs get tired of squatting and my prostate is pretty well drained. I’m still very horny but the edge is taken off and I can enjoy the erotic scene of cum on the mirror.

I awake the next morning to a scene of a successful prostate milking. The semen is a big dry spot on the mirror and the magazines are tossed around haphazardly. I milk more sperm than I would shoot during an ejaculation. The dried semen and mags inspire me to milk it again. I add a smaller fresh pool of semen onto the dry stuff and it’s very much a turn-on. It’s an awesome way for me to enjoy my cum.

You don’t have an orgasm from the experience however I find it very rewarding. [...] Just remember to pee before you start milking. You don’t want to contaminate the semen with pee. Also, massage up above the prostate gland too. Semen sacs [seminal vesicles] are there and need to be milked as well. That does it for me. I’m going to milk it right now. Cheers.

Sincerely, loaded.

Milking – Her Say

At the end of this chapter (about male milking) I would like to share some individual experiences by practitioners on how a gland-milking can be performed. I found these accounts some years ago on the net. I wanted to have both sexes have their say, yet in the end I consider this distinction does not matter that much, at least when it comes to partnersex.

However, I did find the following how-to by someone called Jenny, thus assuming the author is an experienced lady, or, to be more precise, a dominatrix with a good deal of exercise in this discipline. I abridged slightly and made remarks to clarify flawed statements (in red and bracketed) considering commonly accepted facts. – So, ladies first then:

How to milk. Based on my experience.

Find the Spot

First you have to ensure that the Milkman is able to take two fingers up his anus, or at least a hard dildo with a diameter of 3.5 cm.

Next you must find out if you can reach the top of his bladder with your fingers. This is best done when he is lying on his back with his knees up aside his chest. You can slide your finger(s) up inside his rectum feeling the front of it. You better wear a thin rubber glove and use lots of lubricant.

You can feel his prostate as a round relatively hard ball in the size of a ping-pong ball. When you can feel the top of his prostate you will have to get at least 5 cm deeper inside him to feel the top of the seminal vesicles. It is not enough that you can feel his bladder with your fingertips, because you will have to make a pressure along and across both seminal vesicles at the same time. Some pressure on his stomach just below his ribs can force the bladder a bit down so it is easier to reach. If you can’t reach this, you will have to use some tool to milk him.

Tools

In the beginning I used the handle of a hairbrush covered with a rubber. It is 3 cm wide and 20 cm long with rounded edges. I made a mark on it, to show how long inside it needed to go. To set this mark you will have to rely on his cooperation, because he can feel it inside and can tell you when it no longer presses on his bladder, that is when you are past his seminal vesicles. Later on I started to use a hard dildo. It seems to be a better choice, because the end of it goes in between the two seminal vesicles and that way makes a pressure on both at the same time.

If he is not used to get anything up his rectum you will see some wage trace of blood on the tool when you pull it out. That is because so far inside the rectum the blood vessel are very close to the surface and the skin is very thin [although it is true that your rectal tissue is very delicate, traces of blood would be a serious matter hinting to an injury! Consider to consult a physician!].

One way to prevent too much friction to the rectum is to ad some heavy lubricant (heavy-duty Vaseline) into his rectum before entering the tool [using lube is mandatory! Not only to protect the rectal tissue, but to turn the whole milking procedure into a working practise if not a somewhat exciting experience for the milkee.]. That way the tool will catch up some of the lube when it passes through it, and it will decrease the friction against the inside of rectum. [I would not recommend Vaseline because it is much too tenacious, although it reacts with body-heat making it slightly more greasy.]

You will need something to catch up his semen too. I am using a small cup or saucer. I can then let the penis be untouched during the process and just let it drip out the semen. Much more degrading for him… To get an eye for the quantity of semen you can measure out about 5 ml of thick liquid into the saucer. Just to get a good idea of how it looks.

Position (if it is done by another person)

The best position will be with the Milkman lying on his stomach on a relatively hard surface. His lower abdomen and penis free of the surface and him resting on his spread knees with the saucer placed on something right under his penis.

The process

When the tool is placed long enough inside him and is well lubricated, you will have to get a firm grip in the handle and push the inside end of the tool against his bladder. Then you slowly pull it 4 to 4.5 cm out of him. If you pull the tool too much out of him, it will slide over the bottom of the seminal vesicles with a small hump. If you can, stop just before that happens and then keep the pressure on his bladder for a while. The trick is to move the contents of the seminal vesicles down against the valve in the bottom of the bladder and then extend the pressure a little so the valve has to open and let the content out.

If this happens the milkman will suddenly feel the urge to empty his urethra. Therefore his muscles will tighten to try to do so. He will feel nothing else but this. No orgasm or excitement. Just the urge to empty his urethra and you pressing on his urine bladder. Release the pressure and push the tool gently back in, to the top of his seminal vesicles. Do not touch his penis yet. Repeat this process 8 to 10 times or until you feel that you can’t get more out of it. If you want to help the semen out of him you can do so by placing 3 fingers just onto his perineum and press along his urethra towards his penis. Some lubricant may be required.

Then you can try to squeeze more out by massaging his prostate with the tool or your fingers. Anyway you can always secure that his urethra is emptying by letting the tool slide from the top and along one side of his prostate to the bottom of his rectum. But this will produce some feelings similar to an orgasm and it will only produce a little more semen [it appears that Jenny is focussing on milking the seminal vesicles, yet we know that massaging the prostate does produce a fair volume of milk].

When you decide that it is enough, pull out the tool and continue to massage the area between his legs, from his anus towards his penis, by pressing when you move forward and don’t when you move your hand back again. Do it 4 – 5 times and then when your hand is at the root of his penis keep it there and keep up the pressure. With your other hand you take his penis between 2 fingers at the root and squeeze them tight together while you pull down towards his penis head, to empty it. Do not do this more than once or twice, he could get some ideas, if you do it too much.

The more skilled you get and the more he is getting used to this treatment, the better is the result. [...] What I know is, that it is possible to milk out about 90 % of the amount of semen from the total of a regular masturbated ejaculation. Without any amount of sexual excitement. [A sub will certainly draw sexual excitement from the practise of milking, yet by the psychological aspects of it, despite the range of sensations within his reproductive system and anus.]

How often

In the beginning and until his rectum got used to this treatment, not more than once every week. Especially not if you get traces of blood on your tool, during the first times. And that is almost unavoidable [it sure is I´d say! Pay close attention here, blood is the exception, not the rule!]. When he is more accustomed to it you can do it more often.

However I have never got any good results out of doing it more than 4 to 5 times a week. I think, that about 48 hours between every milking is a good choice, if he is not in some kind of chastity. If he is in a well working chastity device, one time each week will do the trick. If the purpose of this is to prevent him from having any orgasm, a chastity device is necessary. The milking can’t prevent this in itself. I have had orgasm with ejaculation after an effective milking. But it can reduce the urge for ejaculation and therefore reduces the pressure for having an orgasm.